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This Mentality Is Very Hard to Spot and Can Ruin Your Life
Part 5 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It
The mentality I’m speaking of is referred to as victim mentality. There are a lot of misconceptions about what this is, which means so many people don’t even realize they have it.
Just because you have victim mentality doesn’t mean you…
- are a pessimist
- think the world is against you
- have a “woe is me” attitude all the time
- think things will never work out for you
- were taken hostage or some other egregious form of victimization
Truth be told, when you have victim mentality some or all of those things may be true for you. But they weren’t for me. This mentality can be very hard to see in yourself, and that’s especially so when you don’t present as the typical “victim.”
The biggest problem with victim mentality is that there is no impetus to action. If you believe you’re the victim of circumstances, you’re not going to take any action to change the situation. You’ll just accept it as “the way things are.” If we truly believe we’re not at fault, or cause, we are not going to DO anything to change things.
