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Stop Blaming Other People and Take Control Over Your Life
If you’re the kind of person who is always looking for someone to blame, welcome to the club! That was me. But I didn’t even realize that was what I was doing until I got into recovery. I’ve come to realize that I have an internal blamer that almost always wants to point the finger elsewhere.
I’ll give an example. One night, when I was sleeping at my sweetheart’s place, I woke up, and the pillow between my knees was missing. My first thought was, “That fucker stole my pillow!” Do you see that?! I went from unconsciousness right into blame! It was a reflex.
First of all, in my waking life, I have never once thought of him as “that fucker.” Secondly, the pillow was on the floor on my side of the bed. And third, he was sound asleep.
That’s how insidious that blaming part of us can be.
You get to stop blaming other people, circumstances, and institutions for your problems. Note I said, “get to” not “have to.” It’s a choice you can make.
If other people really are to blame for everything that’s wrong with your life, you’re screwed! If that’s true, then you have no options, and you might as well crawl under a rock.
Now, of course, that’s not what I believe. When you realize other people are not to blame for your problems, you…
