This is a specific phenomenon of white guilt. When we accidentally step on someone’s foot and they say, “ouch!” we don’t immediately turn on them and say, “well, why was your foot there? I didn’t mean to, I’m a good person and here’s a list of all the ways I’m a good person doing good things.” White guilt triggers us and it keeps us from humanizing the person we harmed. It keeps us distanced from empathy and connection. It keeps us protecting whiteness and our perception of benevolence. Processing this wave of guilt, embarrassment, or anger we are experiencing will allow us to chang…