How to Go From Chemistry to Compatibility: Build Sustainable Love with Boundaries

Do you have a history of dysfunctional romantic relationships?

Me too! Until my current relationship, that is.

Maybe you’re skipping a phase or two of healthy relationships, I know I was.

Many thanks to Tad Hargrave of Marketing for Hippies for creating this model and sharing it.

One thing that many of my boundaries coaching clients have in common is that they skip the stage of “compatibility” in their romantic relationships and often have an abbreviated “courting” phase. One of my clients described a recent relationship by saying they went from “wooing to being like an old married couple.”

Some of my clients even skip the courting phase entirely.

I get it. This was me too. Until now.

Now I’m in a healthy romantic relationship and have been for years. We went through all four phases, which was the first time in my 55 years of life and dozens of relationships. And we keep the chemistry phase alive…