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7 Powerful Strategies to Break Free from the Victim Mentality
Part 3 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It
1. Realize you have victim mentality
This mentality can be super hard to see because it’s deeply entrenched. Having this mentality doesn’t mean you’re bad or weak. You’ve internalized a mode of thinking that was useful to you at one time, likely because you were victimized somehow.
If you continually think, “If __ would just __ then everything would be okay” you likely have victim mentality. In thinking like that, you act like you can’t do anything about the situation or don’t have any options. But everyone has options, they just might be shitty options.
“Victims” act like things are happening to them, they’re not just happening. That means you’re unlikely to take action because you don’t feel you have agency.
2. Stop blaming
If you constant blame others or circumstances, you likely have victim mentality. When you stop blaming, you can start to take responsibility for your life. This doesn’t mean no one has done anything or that circumstances don’t suck. It just means that it’s your responsibility to change things if you want them to change.
Actively search for the things can do to change the conditions you’re not happy with…
